Connecting with Kids through Connection Bids – 273

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Drs. John and Julie Gottman, well-known for their extensive research on relationships, coined the term “bids for connection” to describe the ways people try to connect with each other.


Kids are constantly expressing their need for connection through bids, but adults don’t always pick up on them.


In today's episode, I share some of the most common ways kids and teens make bids for connection, so you can start recognizing and responding to them in positive ways.




  • The most common ways kids and teens make bids for connection
  • How learning to view your kids' behavior as bids for connection can help you feel more loving towards them
  • How to respond, regardless of the form your kids' bids take



  • Episode 261 – How to Break Up with Your Phone and Be a More Present Mom
  • Episode 56 -Your Child's Core Emotional Needs, Part One: Connection
  • Episode 38 – The Power of Play
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