Thank G-d It’s (Almost) Friday!
As many of you know, I’m holding a free information session on Friday, December 14, 2012 to discuss my “Less Drama More Mama” program (shameless plug).
When I initially approached my daughter’s preschool about offering the class, the administrators seemed a bit unenthusiastic.
They said they had offered parenting classes in the past, and that the response had been disappointing.
They said the parents didn't have the time, the money, or even the desire to take a parenting class.
After I described the program and presented them with an outline of topics and objectives, they agreed to let me hold an info session to see what kind of response I would get.
I was thrilled to be given an opportunity to share my passion for parenting with others.
After a few days, though, I started thinking about the reasons they told me that parents might not be interested, and how I might encourage them to reconsider.
1) Time. Parenting is an emotional and mental workout designed to help you grow. I think of these classes as an individualized weight lifting program for your parenting muscles. If you believe it's worthwhile to spend at least ninety minutes a week working out your body, you might consider doing the same for your spirit.
Just like athletes need coaches to train them and help them perform their best, parents sometimes need coaching and training, too.
2) Money. Can you really put a price tag on a good relationship with your kids? Well, sort of… The average family therapist in Boca Raton charges around $125/hour and the average length of treatment is 12 weeks. That’s $1500 and 3 months of your life that could be spared by learning some important, life-changing skills NOW.
When you think of all the money you spend on your kids, it seems that giving them the best of YOU would rank up there with the best money ever spent.
3) Desire. I thought about this one for a long time. How could it be that people didn't desire a better relationship with their kids or want to be the best parents they could be? I didn't understand. But suddenly it made sense: desire wan't the real issue. The real issue was FEAR.
Let me explain…
When someone sees a flyer for a parenting workshop, her first thought (see: intuition) may be, “Hmm. That looks interesting. I sure could use some help with parenting!”
But the more she thinks about it, the more that little critical voice inside her head says, “I don’t want to actually admit that I need help. That would imply I’m not a good parent! And if other people see me going to that workshop, they might judge me and my kids. I'll basically be acknowledging that I don’t have it all together when I try so hard to seem like I do.”
But the truth is that you are a good parent because you want what’s best for your kids and you want to be the best parent to them.
The greatest experts in every field are always seeking to improve their skills and keeping up-to-date with the latest developments. Your kids are constantly changing and just when you think you've got them figured out, another issue arises.
That voice may go on to rationalize: “If I have a problem, I can always turn to fill in the blank (my mother, sister, husband, best friend, etc).” Problem is, that person has issues of his/her own to deal with and isn’t exactly objective.
Here are some benefits of joining this class designed to support your parenting:
- Feeling less lonely or isolated
- Gaining a sense of empowerment and control in your life
- Talking openly and honestly about your feelings without being judged
- Reducing stress, depression, or anxiety
- Getting practical advice and information
- Sharing parenting resources with others
Let’s face it—parenting is the hardest job you'll ever have! It requires more patience, creativity, maturity, resourcefulness, motivation, vulnerability, organization, responsibility, and leadership than any other occupation out there.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, you may be telling yourself (and you wouldn’t be alone!) that you didn’t sign up for all this drama in your life and you wish you knew what to do.
You may be thinking, “Parenting shouldn’t be this hard.”
Actually (as crazy and discouraging as this might sound), the challenges of parenthood are there to help you grow. And the results are totally worth it: a calmer sense of yourself, kids who are inspired to cooperate, and more family fun.
Even though parenting is so difficult, there are ways to make it easier and more effective. I'll give you the tools to face the challenges of parenting head-on and to be the parent you know you're meant to be.
I'm so excited and grateful to have this blog and the opportunity to share my parenting journey with you.
For those of you who are far away, please keep reading! Every Tuesday I'll post some juicy topics that will get you thinking about yourself and your parenting. And who knows? Maybe I'll offer some webinars or online classes some day. But for now, baby steps…
Until next week…keep calm and parent on!